Today, many mothers
work outside the home. Are you struggling with the decision? Read on to learn more about your options.
Though some mothers work because of
financial need, others choose to work for different reasons. Some want to
stay on top of a fast-changing career, while others enjoy the
intellectual stimulation, camaraderie, and sense of purpose and
accomplishment that their work provides. The decision to work or
stay at home can be a tough one for new mothers. There are no
right answers, and each woman must evaluate her specific
situation before she decides what is best for her.
Before making a decision, you need to evaluate the positive and negative effects that working outside the home can have on
- Children under the care of a consistent and nurturing caretaker
may develop emotionally as well as children whose mothers stay
- The mother-child bond should not be damaged.
- Being exposed to peers, your child will have a chance to
develop social skills sooner.
- Your child will have a chance to develop independence and
responsibility at an earlier age.
- Your child will have more opportunities to learn to trust other
- Due to exposure to other children, your child may become sick more often.
- If your child is sick, the care provider may not be able to take care of your child. You may need to find an alternate provider or program. You should also have a back-up option if the sitter is sick.
- Unless you are certain about the quality of care, there is a
risk that your child could receive inadequate care.
Many women are torn between providing financial support for the
family and being a nurturing and supportive full-time mom. Before
you make the decision to go back to your full-time job, consider
other work options you may have. Here are some things to consider:
- Think about a home-based business.
- Find out about freelance opportunities.
- See if you can work from home in the job you currently do.
- Look into a career that will allow you to work from home, like medical transcription.
Maternity leave varies from woman to woman and workplace to workplace.
Getting time off can be tricky, but you can maximize your time if you are creative. Many women take advantage of benefits offered by their employers to gain time off that may include sick time, vacation days, holidays, personal days, short-term disability and unpaid family leave time. It is important to plan your maternity leave in advance so that you and your family know what to expect. Not planning ahead can result not having as much time off or create unintended financial situations.
Talk to your supervisor or refer to your company's human resource department to find out what is available to you.
The most important aspect is finding a caregiver that knows
how to provide optimal physical and emotional nurturing for your
baby. Different types of child care options include:
In-home Care(provided by someone who comes to
- Find a family member, friend, professional day sitter or
- Try advertising in the newspaper or contacting a nanny
- Check references carefully. Be sure the applicant has the qualities
that are important to you. He or she should be responsible, warm,
affectionate, compassionate, playful, and nurturing with
children. Do not be afraid to ask probing questions. Some states have agencies that will do background checks on child care providers.
Care in Another Person's Home
- For this option, you provide transportation, clothing, diapers,
bottles, and toys.
- Again, check references carefully, using the criteria listed
In-home Family Day Care (children in a home setting)
- The care is less expensive.
- Children tend not to receive as much individual attention.
- The provider may or may not be licensed by the state.
- Interview the care providers extensively, checking references and
The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that family day care businesses have no more than 6 children per adult (including caregiver's children), with no more than 2 of those children under the age of 2.
Day Care Center (20 or more children may be cared for in one facility)
- Infants may be exposed to more infectious diseases and have more colds early in life, but during school years, this early exposure may mean less colds.
- Day care centers must be licensed by the state.
- Ask other parents for a referral to a reputable day care center, or
check the phone book.
- Interview providers. Spend at least
several hours at the day care to observe and make sure it is the right
place for your child.
Juggling work and parenting is often very stressful. You may
feel like you will never stay on top of all your responsibilities.
One of the most important things you can do is take care of yourself so that you can take care of your family. Here are some
Find a supportive employer who has family-friendly
You will have a much easier time juggling your responsibilities
if your employer is supportive. If he or she is not supportive,
look for an employer with family-friendly policies who is receptive
to flextime, job sharing, or working from home.
Know your rights. Many laws are in place to protect working women with issues concerning breastfeeding or child care.
Ask for help.
Develop and utilize a support system of trusted people who can
help you in times of need. Your support system may include family
members, friends, neighbors, or professionals that you can hire to
take care of some of your responsibilities. Magazines and books that deal with the topic of working mothers are available in your public library.
Get enough rest.
Even though you are busy, do not shortchange your rest and sleep.
Eliminate time-consuming activities that are not essential. Make
sure you get enough sleep each night. Consider napping when your baby does.
Schedule some time for yourself
every day. For example, have your spouse take care of the baby while you enjoy a warm
bath, exercise or listen to music.
Forget having a spotless house.
Your house might have been immaculate before the baby, but now you have more important priorities. Find ways to eliminate time spent on housework. Keep the house clean and safe, but do not fret over clutter.
Make large quantities of food and freeze meals ahead of time. If you can afford it, consider hiring a housekeeper. Ask your spouse, siblings, and parents for help. Assign chores to older children. A rotating schedule of chores might work best for your family.
Do not expect to be supermom.
Do not expect to be able to handle everything perfectly—no one can. You need help and should not feel guilty about asking for it.
There will be times when your child is sick or is very unhappy
about being away from you. Accept that you cannot afford to stay home, and always remember that you are doing the best you
If you are a single mom, team up with others.
Friends—especially other single moms—may be interested in
sharing responsibilities with you, such as shopping, meals, and
baby sitting. This can help you save both time and money. If you
have no friends who are single moms, look for a group or
organization for single parents.
There are many resources for mothers concerning work and child care. Planning can help take some stress off of your decisions. Take some time before you have your child to explore all your options and choose the best one that fits your family's needs.